Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection

The Gottmans distinguish between “perpetual” and “solvable” problems in relationships. Evaluate their framework for identifying each type and discuss why this distinction matters for conflict resolution.

Analyze the concept of “repair attempts” during conflict. How do successful couples use repairs differently from unsuccessful ones, and what makes repairs effective or ineffective?

Explore the Gottmans’ “bagel method” for compromise. How does this approach balance individual needs with relationship harmony, and what are its strengths and limitations?

Evaluate the Gottmans’ argument that “how a conflict begins is also how it ends” (308). What evidence do they present to support this claim, and what are its implications for relationship success?

Examine the role of personal history and childhood experiences in current relationship conflicts. How do the Gottmans suggest that partners should address these deeper influences?

The Gottmans argue that conflict is necessary for relationship growth. Analyze how this perspective challenges common cultural assumptions about “happy couples,” and evaluate whether their argument is convincing.

Examine the role of power dynamics in relationship conflicts. How do the Gottmans suggest that couples maintain equality and mutual respect during disagreements?

Compare the Gottmans’ approach to gender differences in conflict with other relationship experts. How do they address traditional gender roles and stereotypes in their conflict-resolution framework?